How to live sober? Begin with the end in mind. You have the talent, capabilities, and resources you need to be successful. I know one-day-at-a-time is a thing, but it occurred to me that I can’t go where I want unless I have an idea of where that is. If I want to go on vacay shouldn’t I at least have an idea of which country I want to see? So what do I have worth saying? I no longer drink. I became a non-drinker, overnight, on my own, without a program. Granted, in a world saturated in the joys of booze, it took me a while to find the evidence I needed to support my decision, but I find it I did. The rest was easy
Up until this point the idea that a bottle of wine every night was perhaps a bit too much, bubbled up occasionally and inconveniently - forcing me to abstain from the activities I most enjoyed until I had everything under control. My self-imposed treatment/punishment would last for a few days to a week until the ban was lifted and I was free to resume my life in a way that proved I was a woman who loved and lived her life unapologetically. After all, isn’t that one of the perks of adulting - “I’m grown dammit! I can do whatever I want. Now pass that bottle and that donut”
When I had my “maybe I should stop drinking for real” epiphany I was drunk. My reason for quitting was simple. I was in a relationship with I guy I really liked that was going to shit because…well, I was more emotionally volatile when I was drinking and like the strong-willed, direct individual I was didn’t know how to let sleeping dogs lie, no matter how irrational. “I want to know what you meant when you didn’t say the thing that you should’ve known I wanted you to say, and by god we are going to talk about it via this incredibly ineffective communication tool known as text until I am satisfied or at least until I finish this bottle of wine and can go to bed crying.” Yep. Awesome strategy for making a relationship work
A previous occasion when I was flirting with sobriety introduced me to soberistas.com, a nonjudgmental group who weren’t going to insist that I was a diseased pariah, and I didn’t have to admit I was powerless over alcohol...
OMG. It's here. The tickets are LIVE to you all now! I'm so excited about this event--wait, you don't know about the event? It's a night where we're all coming together to celebrate National Mocktail Week and the start of the @sans_bar National tour. It's going to be a night of drinks (the non-a kind), music, and giving back to a great cause ( @recovery_cafe ). If you want to come (and please know, I WANT you to come), comment below or DM me and I'll send you a direct link to grab your ticket.⠀
When: January 17th (Thursday)⠀
Location: The Factory Luxe in Seattle⠀
Tickets: on sale now at www.MarnieRae.com
Self love can feel very awkward. Especially if you have been programmed to criticize yourself constantly.
You were not born like this. The world makes you self critical. It happens through the messages we’re fed by our family, friends, the media, etc. Little by little, you begin to criticize yourself for the things you are and the things you’re not.
I’m a big fan of the compliment yourself challenge. I ask almost all my clients to compliment themselves once per day. When I follow up, I usually get this response, “that was so awkward.”
It will be very awkward!! It’s so foreign to you that your brain is like “wait what is this?? I’m not used to this.” You might not believe the compliments at first. That’s totally ok. Just keep doing it.
When you are having more positive thoughts, it takes up real estate in your brain. That makes it more difficult to spiral out of control with the negative thoughts. You have learned to believe those negative thoughts. With practice, you will learn to believe the positive ones too.
The awkwardness is just a feeling. It will pass. It is not a sign that you aren’t deserving of the compliment or that it isn’t true. It’s a sign to keep doing it.
Compliment yourself at least once today! How does it feel?
Monday mocktails at @redemptionbar ✨ We tried their ‘pious pina colada’ and it was 👌🏼 Get your coconut fix with this #alcoholfree cocktail made with fresh pineapple juice, lemon juice, frozen pineapple chunks, coconut kefir and coconut yoghurt 🥥🥥🥥
It’s #MocktailMonday and time for another #MixMannMocktail of course with a #ChristmasCocktails twist
I’m all for the spicy, rich, fruity numbers during the festive season, like my Blood Orange Mocktail from last week, but sometimes during this time you may want something a bit different. This one has some tang, fruit, fizz and plenty of flavour. Of course those of you who insist can add a little extra to make this a cocktail but actually there no big reason to!
30ml @seedlipdrinks Spice 94
15ml #bottlegreendrinks Elderflower Cordial
20ml White Grape juice
25ml lemon juice
5ml Sugar syrup
100ml @fevertreemixers Elderflower Tonic
Garnish: Dehydrated Lemon, 5 Grapes on a pick, Mint Sprigs
Combine all (except tonic) in a glass filled with ice, stir well for 20-30 seconds. Top with Chilled tonic, stir again and add garnishes
Enjoy this one whilst enjoying the Christmas season its quick to pull together or ask your friendly bartender to make one if they don’t have many mocktails on the menu!
GIVE US BAD NEWS: As a society we're addicted to external drama, be it in the form of GOSSIP, reality TV, celebrity news, or a breaking story about the nation's sweetheart being exposed for being a peadophile.
Maybe it's hearing that your popular ex-classmate isn't doing so well these days, the kidnapping of a blonde haired blue eyed child, or is it a clip of the latest stupid thing that orange guy has done—etc.
Of course many of us would never explicitly admit that we get pleasure from seeing people fight, cheat, and self-destruct live on TV, but you don't need to—the evidence and stats are all there. Let's just be thankful there isn't a TV show where the contestants can actually murder each other for our viewing pleasure...yet.
Of course this isn't to say some (most) of the things we consume don't infuriate us, but even scientific research will show you that the majority of us get pleasure from it too. "Guilty pleasure".
We also use these things as a way to feel better about ourselves, we breathe a sigh of relief because for a moment we truly believe we're not THAT bad.
Whatever that means. For a brief moment we feel superior.
Most people (including me) have in their lifetime felt some kind of sick thrill when hearing about a celebrity's downfall—or maybe even someone you know. I know you know what I'm talking about.
Now more than ever, Human beings are constantly eager to hear about misfortune, even without realising—and this shit is fascinating, it really is! I don't have a gift-wrapped conclusion here, I'm just spilling my current thoughts.
There's definitely some shadowy stuff in all of this, and I'm going to book in some sessions with myself to explore my own stuff further😫. Because I too get some sick joy from looking at my unpleasant shit. Really, it makes me anxious as fuck but I like it. And it helps me to DO and BE better. More than faking perfection ever did.
Do you secretly love bad news? Don't worry you don't have to answer. If you can recommend anything to watch, read, or listen to in relation to our obsession with bad news and scandal—do let me know or share!🤓
When you’re positive, miracles CAN happen! My 4 year old wiener dog was given 4-6 weeks to live at the beginning of September when he went out of remission. And just look at him today fighting stage 5 lymphoma with his momma who had a severe alcohol addiction just 117 days ago! ❤️ you can do this too... im always here for you!